Author’s note: Due to sensitive nature of this blog, readers’ discretion is definitely advised. To best understand the message and what lies beneath the mind of a homosexual, sleazy and vulgar vernacular has been used. The use of four – letter words should not be taken into context but should be viewed only as mere expressions of the author and what the gay world is all about. Being the slut that I really am, all to say is:

Read at your own risk!

Conservative Catholics we Filipinos are, anything out of the typical mother, father and children structure of the basic unit of families is considered as abnormal and to the devout Catholics, immoral. Multiple wives and husbands and children out of wedlock were shunned out of society as if they were lepers. Homosexuals are not exempted which up to this day are either mocked or made fun of and were not taken seriously. In a typical machismo society, where having multiple wives, girlfriends and mistresses - is considered as a testimony to a male’s masculinity and macho image. Every man is expected to play out the role of a tough, strong and chauvinistic gigolo.

Nowadays however, with the proliferation and much – publicized success stories of gay fashion designers, Peralta, Salud and Moreno and among others, and iconic hairdressers Serrano and Reyes; Filipinos treatment of gays have somewhat changed. Though the stigma still exists in a basically homophobic Filipino society, gays today are accepted and recognized with more panache and taste today than decades ago.

What first comes to mind of the heterosexual Filipinos when gays are the topics of discussion is the image of the flamboyant, drag and queenly gay parloristas and make – up artists. Though gayness is written all over their faces and are most of the times are loud and screams like horny cats, they are not the only gays existing in the Filipino culture. To better look into the picture of gays and homos, I categorized them into two – extreme gays and in – betweens.

Both ends of the Spectrum

Extreme gays are divided into two, which are the:

1. Effeminate gays – one look at them, there’s no telling that they are definite gays. Effems, which they are fondly called, exudes the aura of a woman. They are the one who are born in a man’s body but with a heart of a woman. They may not dress like a woman, wear skirts or blouses, but their actuations and mannerisms are screaming indications that they are gays. The actions typical of effeminates are the hips sway movements, and either hand is always carrying either a fan or a handkerchief and the other one on the waist, which reminds me of the “beauty queen” pose every time I see one. They have also mastered the craft called “irap look” and can easily raised one or both eyebrows. They are the ones often laughed at and are mocked in our society and to the machismo Filipinos, are their main source of fun and entertainment. Examples of effeminate gays are the parloristas, fashion designers, talk show hosts and drag queens; and

2. Discreet Gays – you can never tell that they are gays. They look every inch a macho man, muscular body, good looks and the whole package. By choice they prefer to remain in the dark, or as some say in the closet, because of various reasons. Some belong to a conservative family and being gay is not tolerated. Most have reputations and image they are protecting. Some are even married to a woman and has kids. They are the discreetest of the discreets and you would never ever see them acting like that of effem gays. Discreet gays are mostly public officials, matinee idols, soldiers and policemen, professionals and gym dudes. So girls, beware of those “eligible bachelors” you drool your eyes over.


Next installment… in between gays.