What would you think if a girl says these words pertaining to his guy?

“I may not be able to equal what he’s giving me.”

A hypothetical question emailed to me by my good friend, Mervin. I dialed his number and ask him what was that all about. Turned out that he is the guy being referred to. I started giving him some generalized tips over the phone when I assume, or rather sensed, that he needs a person to talk to about this predicament. I volunteered to be a listening ear since I’m quite free at the time. Over our conversation, I was able to cite some decent advice, which are way better than those non – sense blah blah over our phone chitchat.

On my way home, I realized that most of my friends actually do come to me asking advice or suggestions about love, life, work, relationships etc. Its not that it’s a bother or anything, I’m actually flattered when someone is opening him/herself out before me. Knowing that a person somehow trusts you and what you’re to say really makes one’s heart swell with pride. One of my friend’s testimonial [atfriendster] actually says that I am to go-to person when he needs advice. I just realized how true it is until now.

As I am analyzing myself in that “Ate Charo”, “Dr. Love” persona, I surmised the following probable reasons why I can be a qualified adviser/counselor.

1. I listen – I’m always amazed to what others have to say especially stories about love, life, heartaches and failures. As I’ve said, its flattering to know that person/s trust/s you with their innermost thoughts and aspirations. I absorb each story and try to visualize myself in their shoes.
2. I am uncommitted – you might think how come I go preaching around giving advices about heart problems when I don’t even have my own love life to speak about. True, that I am or haven’t been in the same situation but giving advice from a single person’s vantage point has that unbiased and unclouded feel to it. I maybe wrong but I [just] assumed that when you’re asking someone who has the same dilemma as yours, chances are you’ll end up consoling [and fooling] each other.
3. Your quintessential Mr. Play-it-Safe Guy – I give my views to every side and aspect of the situation or problem. In that sense, I am not really giving advice but merely letting the person see those things he might have overlooked because he’s blinded by his emotions like love, anger and frustrations. I always stressed to those who asks me for advice that THEY still have the last say on THEIR personal issues.
4. To each his own – I’m not proclaiming myself to be the best nor I would like to be regarded as the worst adviser there is. I’m pretty much aware that though some of my tips/views/perception of things are options to consider but nothing has a guarantee. Life is so complicated for all of us to figure out what’s in store in the future. Some will work while others will backfire right in our faces. That’s life!

Also, one thing I am sure of is that I’m the LOUSIEST adviser when I’m in love. So, don’t go asking for some advice when I have that dreaded heart – shaped eyes and that zoning out, ‘earth to Marlon’ smile because chances are, you won’t be getting anything but love shit.